Q: Your husband’s last blog How to Take a Girl on a Real Date had great advice for guys, but what about the other way around? He says if they do this then they will never have a bad date. A: The number one thing Brian stresses for guys to do on a date is to uphold the dignity of a woman.

Meet Alysha Jeney, a 30-year-old married relationship counselor based in Denver, Colorado.

Yep, you read that right — she’s a counselor, a millennial herself, she’s in a successful long-term relationship. Jeney, who is also the founder of the subscription-based Modern Love Box for couples, has been with her partner for about a decade, and has been in private practice for three years.

There are all kinds of advice out there about dating today, but a lot of it is about dating in the world rather than Christian dating.

Christians need to have a different attitude toward dating.

Below, learn why authenticity is so critical to dating, and how a milkshake could help you find your next bae.

Alysha Jeney: With our generation being so used to instant gratification, and used to being so easily accessible to each other, there’s a false sense of connection.We may try to act or look a certain way so that our date likes us.It’s not a bad thing to want to impress others, but our ultimate goal in dating shouldn’t be to please the guy who asked us out. God created women intentionally, unique within all of creation.He is clear on whom you should date and why you should date.When it comes to Christian dating, you live according to a different standard – God’s. There are some solid reasons why God asks us to live a certain way, and dating is no different.I echo my husband’s sentiment and think the most important thing for a girl to do on a date is to remember she has great dignity and worth.