But, if you know certain things going into a relationship with a musician, it can make you better prepared to weather the panties thrown on stage, the misery they’ll feel when only three people are in the crowd, and the hours on end they’ll need to themselves to hone their art.

Being a Supportive Girlfriend Developing the Relationship Taking Care of Yourself Community Q&A Dating a musician, regardless of gender, is not always easy.

Often gorgeous and totally mysterious, every twenty-something has to date a musician at some point. But we all know that musicians can be temperamental, and their way of life isn’t exactly conducive to a stable relationship.

A complete workaholic, Alex has been a manager in the same restaurant since she was sixteen, and enjoys writing freelance across all fields, from fashion to food to affairs of the heart.

In a year or so, she hopes to find herself in a city apartment somewhere, working in features and taking care of her pet pygmy hedgehog.

You'll probably be around the band enough to know backstage life isn’t the R-rated Gucci Mane video clip you first thought, and mostly just a lot of standing around.

..there will still always be beautiful girls standing around backstage, making you feel insecure.

Before I even get into it, let me properly preface this with some important context. Now I’ll be honest, I have my fair share of female supporters, but nothing comes close to an official “groupie.” To every dude dreaming of becoming a rock star just for the chicks, I’m pretty sure I just shattered all your hopes & dreams. To every person that thought you actually get panties thrown at you while you’re on stage, that doesn’t happen unless you’re R. Groupies don’t care about you when you’re on the come up, because you’re likely broke and struggling.

Sadly, the groupies are trying to weasel their way into the VIP at Gansevoort to get a glimpse at Trey Songz, not come to your show at some hole in the wall joint.

LOS ANGELES, CA - JANUARY 26: Musician Taylor Swift performs onstage during the 56th GRAMMY Awards at Staples Center on January 26, 2014 in Los Angeles, California.

Are you a musician and don’t know how to get your point across to your better half?

But enough of all this groupie talk – Let me further explain why dating as a musician is so hard.

I’ll be the first to admit that guys in general don’t approach women respectfully anymore. During my subway commutes, in elevators, coffee shops, while ordering lunch, at music shows, etc. I spoke about this very issue with NYC-based Matchmaker & Dating/Relationship Expert, “The problem with dating in NYC is that with the rise of mobile dating apps, singles have more options than ever.

But it really hit me the other day – most women on the NYC subways are wearing headphones and playing candy crush. With all these beautiful women glued to their smart phones, even in so many public & social scenarios, infiltrating that digital barrier is a very difficult thing to do. New Yorkers are swiping away everywhere, but all of these “connections” are leading to nothing but an epic failure to actually commit in relationships.” Russo also states that, “People are so obsessed with the matches that are about to expire on their phones, that they are missing out on the opportunities passing by right in front of them.” I couldn’t agree with her more.