It can be so fun, so exciting, so romantic—and yet so utterly confusing.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve been in one too many situations where I wished I could just get inside a guy’s head.

I thought it was time to make the connection physical and intimate…

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The biggest issue: I’m ready to move forward, and he’s not. So, on behalf of female confusion across the world, I sat down with Paul Maxwell, a twentysomething single guy, to get some male insight into this whole “readiness” problem.

Most of my girlfriends know exactly what I’m talking about. These are guys who have been genuinely attentive and caring. How does everything change one day when he decides he’s just not ready to be with her? Me: So many guys I’ve talked to tell me they’re not ready for a relationship. Paul: “I’m not ready” is a guy’s way of saying one of two things: (1) “We’re moving at different paces, and I need you to allow me to move at my own pace,” or (2) “I’m just not that into you, but I don’t want to hurt your feelings.”If a man senses that you are more “into it” than he is or that you are eager for the relationship to move forward at a quicker pace, he may feel as though the relationship poses a constant ultimatum: “Move at my pace, or stop wasting my time.” Women often speak this way, sometimes putting men in two categories: men who do what they want, and men who aren’t worth their time. It may also be the case that the man you are getting to know is looking for something physical or even something emotional (whether he admits it to himself or not) but is not ready for the commitment that kind of relationship with the opposite sex involves.

Evan, is it a good idea to date a guy who is in the final stages of a divorce or even right after his divorce is final?

A guy in the final stage of his divorce pursued me every time I ran into him and called and said he’s so into me and hasn’t been attracted to any other woman.

"Eros" fall in love with the physical attributes of another before any other characteristic.

This type of lover is also known to commit to other casual sex relationships. They are looking for the feeling of conquest and typically enter a relationship or hook-up with very little or no intentions of establishing any kind of commitment.

You've reached solid ground, and while many things in the world remain gray and uncertain, you generally know where you and your partner stand. There are some blatant signs that a relationship is getting serious: You might have a discussion about making the relationship exclusive, discuss moving in with each other and of course, there's no greater sign than when a ring makes an appearance.

Aside from the formal discussions, game-changing decisions and Kodak moments, there are some subtler ways of knowing if things are going from gray to golden. This goes beyond making out or the occasional butt pinch in public.

He feels I would have some expectations and I’m not into casual sex, so I’m sure I would.