They hated him because he is black At the end of August, my husband and I will celebrate 12 years of marriage, but the years leading up to the so-called happiest day of my life were the most challenging years I’ve ever been through.Here’s the thing: I never ever planned marry a black man.My parents hated my husband the first time they met him.

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While these cases are often simple bigotry, your parents might have concerns or confusion about your decision.

Before talking to them, talk to your partner and friends to find out how they’d deal with talking to your parents.

I'll never forget the look on my parents' faces when Mike walked through the door: confusion mixed with horror.

When he left—after an hour of awkward silence interrupted by short bursts of conversation—the drama began.

Maybe it isn’t even appropriate for your partner to talk to their family at all about their dating life.

Or maybe your partner has to go through almost a “coming out” process around dating someone white or outside of their culture.They didn’t hate him because they found out we’d been dating for three years when they met him.My parents hated my future husband because his skin was too dark.It wasn’t until high school that I started to realize that the love I saw and wanted came with conditions.Since I wasn’t allowed to date until I was 16, I had a secret boyfriend in the months leading up to that milestone birthday.He was great, so naturally I thought nothing of bringing him home for my parents to meet right after I turned 16.