They share the same feelings (as I did and do) of excitement, trepidation, anxiety, confusion and fear over their newborn single status.

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We have undergone massive life shifts from single-hood to married life, pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding; enduring radical changes to our bodies and minds.

We are connected, interwoven with the lives of our children.

We are responsible for their well-being and daily survival.

Hidden under the layers of responsibility lie our own needs, which resurface as we disengage from our identity as a married woman.

I know, I know, the logistics of dating as a solo parent who’s working to provide for her family can get tough.

I’m right there in the trenches online at single parents' dating sites and on apps, looking for love and, mostly, looking to stay out of trouble.

Cons: Since you’re limited with your search parameters, you may sift through a lot of matches just to find one decent guy. Bumble Pros: What makes it unique is women have to pitch the first message. While there have been one or two saucy gentlemen I’ve come across, for the most part the men have wanted to go on dates pretty quickly.

From search alone you only know age and distance, and then it’s up to the men to fill in the blanks briefly with some profile description. This leaves you wondering things like: • How tall is he? (My experience with Tinder was that men could waste your precious single-mom minutes messaging you back and forth.) Bumble’s biggest plus: You can “take back” a negative, left swipe for free (unlike Tinder)!

From the outside, we may look the same as our single comrades (with no children,) but the insides of our lives, minds and hearts are vastly different.

Single moms don't have the same free will as other single women.

Traditionally men view the introduction of children to be a big step.