I get that he checked out and that is so, so, so wrong and absentee fathers hold men, women, fathers, mothers and most of all children back. It is heartbreaking that your kids’ dad is not an equal parent, but that doesn’t mean that his absence is irrelevant. It’s a big deal, and your children deserve the honor of feeling sad, mourning the absence of a committed dad.. You don’t die when you don’t have a romantic partner, and your kids don’t die when their dad isn’t around. First of all, no one owes you shit, no matter the day of the year.

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Notably, descriptions of single moms given by the study’s respondents included the beliefs that this group of parents was neglectful, irresponsible, immature, stressed out, depressed, prone to making bad choices, promiscuous, hopeless, and / or insecure.

Single fathers, on the other hand, were perceived by those surveyed as individuals in a challenging situation who had to worry about complications of solo parenting like paying child support, finding child-care, and balancing their dating life with raising kids.

If you are a mother and you are collecting child support, you are not a single mother. The rest of us who have to LIVE with your fucked up, emotionally scarred children will PAY you to have a fucking abortion. Second, single mothers are clearly really, really shitty at making life decisions. You both put each other’s happiness above your own. Now divorced mothers, who are a breed of single mothers, MIGHT be a little different, but whenever you approach one, sing this little song in your head: it takes two to tango. Even if it’s TRUE that the husband was a colossal fuck-up, you need to ask yourself what kind of imperceptive moron couldn’t spot that?

Depression, suicide, drug abuse, jail and psychiatric medications are all more common in populations of children raised by single mothers. journalid=37&articleid=107§ionid=692 Ladies, this is why abortion exists!

I am making it in my work a priority to address and remedy. The make up of their family, the involvement of each parent, is on those parents. But don’t say that to your kids — directly or passively. I’ve been guilty of saying bad stuff about my kids’ dad. Other times, the vitriol of the divorce or breakup subside and make room for healthy co-parenting.

Absentee fathers is a big freaking problem in this country, as I have explored here, here and here. Second, you kids don’t owe you because you raise them. There are many, many examples of parents who checked out of their kids’ lives, but re-emerged to be meaningful fathers and mothers. Or deal with mental health or financial issues that hold them back from being involved.

Between raising happy, healthy, and respectful children in a tough world, making ends meet financially, and keeping yourself in the best mental, emotional and physical shape possible, being a single mom is truly a juggling act.

Plenty of memes going around Facebook giving Father’s Day shout-outs to single moms who “do it all.” Mahogany, Hallmark’s line aimed at African Americans, has a half-dozen designed celebrating moms on this day. You do you, raise your kids and stop asking them or the world for acknowledgment. If you establish that Father’s Day does not involve your kids’ father, you close that door of hope.

And you know how much he loves his league.” Later, I reflected on the conversation.

Despite also being a car-less, transit-using single parent who can’t remember the last time I had a regular weekly recreational activity not related to the eight-and-under set, I found myself marveling at this friend’s sacrifices.

Even if the love does not come from the people whom you crave it from most, there is indeed more love than you, your kids, or even their dad, can fathom.